The path to achievement is often paved with roadblocks. Even the most driven and motivated people are derailed from time to time. Life’s missions are never expected to be a direct upward trajectory. So how does one solve the problem of pushing forward and overcoming these barriers when we feel stuck and overwhelmed with feelings of laziness, procrastination, fear reasons and inertia.
When we examine the volcano model, it is all about synergistically building a stronger MINDSET, FRAMEWORK, and sustainable ACTION steps which reinforce the desired objective. Often once the structure is appropriately designed ,and the actions are automatized into routine habits, the process can run with sustained momentum. But what happens when the mental outlook hits a barrier? It could be in the form of a rejection or a family crisis. It could be a financial hardship or simply the change in seasons. For whatever legitimate reason, the emotional rhythm has been disrupted and resuming tasks become notably more challenging then before.
Its time to evaluate the MINDSET and look for ways to reignite it. After all, it was the driven mindset that initially propelled the enthusiasm , curiosity and desire to achieve the goal. How do we get it back once the rhythm is lost and perhaps we have fallen into an avoidance pattern. Procrastination occurs either from an avoidance, fear based MINDSET or from a disorganized structural FRAMEWORK and design. Here we shall examine the MINDSET and reveal the ways to acknowledge and challenge the fears, uncertainties and doubts that can keep us mentally stuck.
So what is really behind “not feeling like it”. It is a great excuse we can tell ourselves to mitigate the discomfort of confronting our inactions. So is flippantly saying the word CANT to ourselves. This is the most mentally disabling term and can potentially keep us stuck in despair. CANT is a limiting belief .Buying into It absolves us from having to dig emotionally deeper and deal with the underlying fear behind it.. If we want to get past this barrier , it is necessary to understand where CANT is rooted.
1. There are CANTS that are based in the laws of physics, physical limitations and biology. For example, humans cant physically fly nor can they thrive in the NBA is they are 5 feet tall and visually impaired. You cant work out if you are sick or broke your arm.
2. There are CANTS that are based in capabilities. These are purely functions of training, practice and gradually built competency over time. These CANTS can be overcome once you accept and acknowledge that the neuro connections in the brain can become hardwired with sustained repetition until a skill is sufficiently mastered.
3. There are CANT’s that are a function of timing. These are related to the fact that it takes time for competency and mastery to occur. If you want to be an accomplished musician, you have to practice thousands of hours before you can expect to sound like the pros. If practice structure and habits are in place, then CANT is not the appropriate word. It is merely NOT YET. Time and consistency will change thinking and believing that you cant play well to eventually realizing that can play well.
4. Finally there are CANTS that are really of ones personal choosing. When one understands how capability, genetics and training time can be attained, and still decides to decline to act, it no longer becomes a matter of CANT. It is a matter of choosing WONT. This is in fact more empowering because it allows the individual the responsible ownership of choosing to say no as apposed to defaulting into thinking that they CANT. It is also empowering because it is a conscious choice that utilizes the higher order level neocortex part of the brain. The limbic part of the brain is more primitive and is connected with emotional fear and avoidance.
So now that we understand where our limiting beliefs are rooted what at the strategies that can be used to overcome them,
1.First and foremost, be willing to challenge the limiting belief. It may be actually perceived or irrational and not real. Ask yourself if there is any true threat if you proceed to start the action cycle. If you want to resume your exercise program just start!!. If your feeling uncomfortable, awkward or sluggish, do it anyway.
2. If you are struggling with doubt and uncertainty, then focus on the process. Certainty and confidence only come from practice. The more you do it the easier it gets and the more mastery that follows. Its all about establishing and hardwiring those neural connections. They take time to form but they can last a lifetime once reinforced. ( Don’t think CANT, think NOT YET ….. but I’m slowly getting there!). There is much power once that simple  mindset shift is realized. So Practice it!!!
3. Redefine your understanding of mistakes. They are an important, vital part of the process. Since childhood, all our teaching tells us it is bad or wrong to make mistakes. That’s the biggest limiting belief. MISTAKES are good. They are a necessary component to the learning process. Its how we neurologically fine tune our movements, and thought processes. No one ever mastered anything without making countless mistakes first. How many times does a child fall down before he learns to walk. How many sour notes does one hit before you can play chopsticks? How many free throws did Michael Jordan miss in a given record breaking season? Its time to abandon the limiting belief that we cant do something just because we inevitably make mistakes in our attempts.
So the next time you think you cant do something, be willing to stop and challenge that limiting belief. Ask yourself is it really true , and if it isn’t , where is this false belief really coming from ?


Can you think of something you are currently not doing because you believe you cant? What could you do to challenge and overcome that? Please share